I know that I’ve been married like 5 minutes, so bear with me while I post a lot of annoying newlywed shit. This is sort of a big deal for me and I’m allowed to be excited about it and can you tell I’m maybe a little bit touchy about being that girl about all this?
I’ve been changing my name. I mean, I changed my name I guess and now I’m going about getting it changed on all my accounts and on all my cards and in all my spam emails. I’ve been to the license bureau (points for correct spelling WITHOUT googling), the social security office, the bank. I’ve gotten a new email and printed a new business card. Shoot, I even asked them to update it at the library.
Mrs. Moser. Amanda Jeann Moser. Amanda Moser.
It’s pretty weird because it sort of feels like I’m playing dress up. When I was a kid, I wanted my name to be Karen (awesome, right?) and anytime I played house my name was automatically Karen. I feel like I’m asking everyone to start calling me Karen and we’re all just gunna go with it, but permanently.
I’m sure every newly married person who changes their name has this feeling. I can’t help but wonder how much more exacerbated this sensation is for me because my last name has been what has made me unique since I was a child. Because one of my best friends shares the first name “Amanda,” I’ve been “Amanda Powell” or more often “Powell” (and let’s not forget the variations- “Powell Face,” “P-Dawg,” or any of the other variations I enjoyed through high school) for a really long time. Even Brett has affectionately called me Powell.
Right now it’s sort of kitschy and cute, but I can’t help but wonder when it will feel completely natural to introduce myself as Amanda Moser. I’m having a ball signing our thank you cards “The Mosers” but it still feels like a gag. Remember how we got married and I changed my name and now I’m not Amanda Powell, I’m Amanda Moser and I’m allowed to sign my name that way and no one can say anything about it?!
None of this is to cast doubt on my decision to take Brett’s name. I respect everyone’s choice to do what they want when they marry regarding the name game, but it was the right choice for me. It feels special and draws me close to Brett and his family and creates a new unit between the two of us. Plus, it just sounds good. Amanda Moser.
I know my cousin Emily has joked about how weird the transition can be. She admitted to initialing “EP” on a document and she and her husband have been married over a year! What about my other married friends? Has it been weird for you? If you’re getting married- do you plan to change your name?
Amanda Moser- signing off!